Thursday, 28 February 2013
Monday, 18 February 2013
It’s hard to get what we want in life. It’s even harder when we’re so afraid to tell other people what we want that we sit around hoping they’ll read our minds. How often do you have the guts to tell somebody that you want, or don’t want, something? Do you ever feel as if you let people walk all over you? Does the thought of complaining in a restaurant fill you will cold dread?
It might be something you've never
thought about, but picture this: You’re waiting for the bus, trying to balance
your take-out coffee in one hand and your mobile in the other. Suddenly, you
feel something slamming into you, spilling your coffee and making you drop your
phone. You look around and see that a stranger, absorbed in their own phone,
just crashed into you without a word of apology. Do you:
|"Honey, of COURSE I don't mind if you still talk to your |
ex every day...." (mysuccessprinciples.com)
a) Scream at them, telling them to watch where they’re f***ing going!
b) Silently pick up your coffee and phone, thinking about how much the world steps on you
c) Say nothing but curse under your breath, perhaps loudly shouting “ouch!”
d) Approach the stranger and kindly point out what they did
OK, so this situation obviously depends on a lot of things. You don’t want to miss your bus, and you don’t want to accidentally enrage a stranger, just in case they’re the next serial killer and respond to your “kind” request with a punch in the face, or worse. Besides, they might have a legitimate reason for being in such a hurry, meaning that you’d feel guilty for saying anything. Generally, though, the response you felt the most drawn to gives a clue about how assertive you are.