Tuesday, 30 April 2013

Making Big Leaps + My First Video Entry!

"Too late for second-guessing, too late to go back to sleep, it's time to trust my instincts, close my eyes and leap..." sings Elphaba in one of my favourite musicals, Wicked, moments before she breaks away from what is expected of her and starts to fly.

While things didn't go so well for her, there are many people out there who would tell you that their lives just wouldn't be as good now if they hadn't taken a big leap at some point in their past. You don't have to learn to actually fly and cast magic to shake things up. If you have a big career change, you're moving countries or there's a big shift coming up in your personal life, you might find yourself freaking out and wondering how to cope. Changes are scary.

I moved to Japan in 2010, having never visited the place before. Lots of people told me "I wish I could do something like that!" Less than two years later, I was moving to Prague (with the fiancé that I found in Japan, oh yes) with even less certainty - no job, no idea where I'd live, just a pocket full of dreams (well, and a little cash; it does help).

In my first ever VIDEO ENTRY I talk about making big leaps in your life. My video entries are delightfully named Tea with Gwynnie, because I'm so very British that I just can't resist sipping on a cup of tea while talking to you. Posting a video is a bit of a leap for me, too, as I cringe when I watch myself on camera... but I figured hey, I might as well see how it goes.

So, here it is... enjoy!

If you liked that, then check out my new Shine with Self-Confidence course! You'll learn how to find the courage to make big leaps, whether you're moving countries or changing your career path!

Monday, 15 April 2013

Do You Listen to Your Confidence or Your Paranoia?

I've been a massive Red Dwarf fan since I first watched it as a child, and recently I realised that one of its earlier episodes was strongly connected to something I've been talking about recently.

In the episode Confidence and Paranoia, Lister (Craig Charles) talks about those two voices in his head that we're all familiar with: "It's like everyone's got two people inside you. You've got your confidence and paranoia. And your confidence's the guy who goes, 'Hey you're great.
  You're dead sexy! Everybody loves you!' And your paranoia says, 'You're stupid. You're useless. You're ugly. And everybody hates you

Of course, later on he gets sick and his hallucinations actually come to life, but the point is that for most of us these two 'people' exist inside our heads. The problem is that many of us take on the voice of Paranoia and mistake it for our own thoughts, while dismissing anything that Confidence might have to say as silly and unrealistic. If you tend to put yourself down, doubt your abilities and only notice your flaws, then it might be time to look at what you're telling yourself.